I feel ten feet tall and I'm normally 5'7 so I'm feeling great!
Tom has helped me change my attitude towards alcohol and I am now able to drink in moderation.
Tom got me back on track... not just training, but really enjoying my running again.
Every day as a father comes with its stresses and surprises. Are you struggling to overcome the overwhelm that can come with being a dad?
Being a father can impact your sense of purpose or idnetity. Do you feel like you have lost your way or your sense of self?
Each stage of fatherhood brings opportunity for joy, but you may also need to reulate string emotions. Do you feel like you need to cage 'dad-rage'?
Fulfilling your role as a bread-winner while being a present parent isn't easy. Do you feel like work is consistently encroaching on family time, or vice versa?
Being a dad can seriously impact what you put in your body! Are you experiencing negative changes in sleep patterns, eating habits or drinking?
As a parent you're responsible for your kids' wellbeing, as well as your own! Are you able to stay fit and active so you can keep up and keep sane?
Fatherhood can mean a huge shift in your social life. Do you still feel connected with your partner, friends, family... and, of course, your own kids?!
Parenting can make you question your parenting abilities and other abilities. Are you struggling to perform at work, at sport or elsewhere in life?
Some dads can feel trapped in dadhood. Do you seek for ways to escape through drugs, gambling, ill-discipline or negative addictions?
It's important that you understand that anything can be said, everything is heard and nothing is judged. Everything we discuss is confidential, unless I believe that someone may be in danger or if we agree that someone else needs to be involved.
I do not magically 'fix' you or give you the answers — all that's going to come from you! I simply guide you through a highly personalised process, tailored to your specific needs, that requires your honesty, commitment, input and action.
While you may find coaching to be a 'therapeutic' experience is is not therapy. Nor, should it be confused with mentoring:
I do not magically 'fix' you or give you the answers — all that's going to come from you! I simply guide you through a highly personalised process, tailored to your specific needs, that requires your honesty, commitment, input and action.
This is not about spending hours trying to make sense of your past (that's been and gone and exists only as a memory, and probably an inaccurate one!). This is about creating the future you want. We combine previous experiences with realistic future goals to highlight how you can overcome challenges, make better decisions and utilise your resources to create change, fast.
The more you put in, the more you get out of this process. It feeds on your input and involvement. If you hold back we won't get to the root of what is holding you back from living the life you want to live.
I am not here to help you 'feel' better. I am here to help you 'do' better (and by taking action you will be able to make yourself feel better)! Sometimes the process can bring up things that you find confronting. But this is part of the process, as only by identifying them can you truly target and overcome them.
Everyone is different, has different needs and thinks differently from one day to the next, so we take an adaptable approach with wriggle room for the unexpected! There may be tears, there is usually laughter and lots of other emotions in between.
We will establish what your true challenges are, their triggers and the impact on your life. Your processing, filtering and response patterns may be challenged.
We embed the courage, resources and power that enable you to continue to make choices that create long-lasting change, disrupt negative thinking and make decisions with confidence.
You will establish what’s important to you — by identifying your values, sense of purpose and your ‘north star’. This becomes the platform from which you can process thoughts, filter feelings, amplify your strengths, add value and respond to the world around you in a new and positive way.
QUICK Chat
During this 30 minute call we will get to know one another and most importantly, we will both establish whether we are a good fit in terms of working together to help you realise your goals. When you decide to proceed we'll book in your sessions.
The Big Dadventure Program
The Happy Dad program is delivered in 8 steps (plus homework and checkins), typically delivered over 8 weeks.
It can also be delivered as an intense accelerated program over a single day or two half days.
Single Session
If you are too busy or do not yet want to commit to the full program, this is a great way to get started and get really clear on your personal values and build a foundation for future work – whether that's with me or with another coach or therapist.
Focus:
Time Orientation:
Professional Scope:
Problem vs. Goal:
Medical Model vs. Developmental Model:
When Coaching is appropriate:
When Therapy is appropriate:
Rapid Results Coaching is one of the fastest ways to change behaviour. Typically we work with a program lasting 8 sessions. This could be done in a single day, but is typically spread over 4 to 8 weeks.
However, most people say that they experience a significant improvement or change during their first session.
Different coaches have different pricing structures, ranging from $120 an hour to $400 an hour. Some coaches will charge for a program.
The Happy Dad Project is program based and you can see the costs on the Coaching page.
When conducted by a trained coach, coaching is considered a very safe process for most people, unless they have a severe mental illness.
Throughout your Big Dadventure coaching you are always in control, always conscious and always able to stop the session if you are not comfortable with how things are progressing.
This dynamic approach works well for clients of all ages, from all kinds of backgrounds at home, at work, at school and anywhere else in between. As family is a critical component of fatherhood, I often work with teens and young adults.
When working with anyone under the age of 18, I will need parental consent and will ask for a parent or guardian to be present at one or more of the sessions, depending on how things are progressing.
Koaktive is based on the Upper North Shore and Northern Beaches of Sydney. We respectfully acknowledge the people of the Eora Nation as the Traditional Custodians of the land on which our community exists. We recognise their deep and continuing spiritual connection to the land, waters, and sea. We pay our respects to Elders past, present and emerging, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.